Category Archives: Make Me Human

Letter From the Editor: Sorry for my Absence and Sometimes Love Really Does Last a Lifetime

Hello Dear Readers,

I just wanted to let you know that I have been super busy these past few weeks with Real Life responsibilities…ugh!! So no worries, I haven’t abandoned this blog. 🙂 I have been doing Human Rights’ presentations for universities and working on a website…all with the goal of boosting my resume so that when I apply to these fellowships in NYC, I will trick them into thinking I am a qualified candidate. 🙂 I promise to return soon with more tantalizing erotic tales and more heart warming poetry.

Until then… I will leave you with some pics that always makes me believe in finding love again and with the hope that sometimes love really does last a lifetime.

You are never too old to find the the one!

This story is my favorite!! The man is 104 years old and his wife is 100 years old. They have been married for 81 years. They are very poor and he has never seen his wife in a wedding dress, so when this picture was taken, it was the first time she wore one. They were both so overwhelmed. He hugged her and said that she is still beautiful to him. 🙂


Never Too Old To Dream

She picks up her pencil and starts to take notes. She looks around the room at unfamiliar faces…younger faces…and struggles to pay attention as the professor lectures on, in a language that is natively, not her own.

After escaping a war-torn country, adapting to a new culture, raising 5 children into adulthood, and working the last 15 years on the assembly line level of a company that does not realize her worth…she finally decided to pursue her own dreams.

She spent the last 2 years writing a memoir, with only the hopes and dreams that the outside world would value her struggles as much as she did. At the beginning of this year, she sent off numerous manuscripts, with only a simple prayer. Her hopes and dreams became a reality when among the numerous “nos”, one publishing company finally said “yes.” Only in her dreams did she imagine that her memoir would not only be published, but that she would be asked to do a book signing, and that there would already be a pre-order of 1,000 books.

Today she is making another dream a reality. While others were getting teary eyed wishing their kids off to school…I was getting teary eyed wishing my mother “good luck” on her first day back at school…in 39 years!! She is 54 years old and starting Adult Education Classes at the 5th grade level…and I have never been more proud of her.

She has taught me a lot of life lessons, including the fact that…it is never to late to pursue your dreams and sometimes dreams really do come true!

For more on her story: My Mother, My Hero

Another Week…Another Shooting

This is not a post on anti-gun laws, though that would be an interesting topic that has plagued me some. I still don’t really know where I stand on the subject matter yet, plus it’s been a long day and my brain is too tired to think…and it’s much easier to rant.

Why does it seem like every week there is another shooting?! Today there was another incident near Texas A&M University, where there were 3 killed and 4 injured.  It won’t be considered a “mass shooting” because 4 deaths are required before it will be categorized as such. Last week, on August 5th, there was the mass shooting at a Sikh temple in Oak Creek, Wisconsin, with 7 dead and 3 injured. And of course, there was that infamous shooting on the eve of the Batman movie premier on July 20th in Aurora, Colorado. There were 12 deaths and 58 wounded. The week before that, 3 people were killed and 2 were injured when a gunman opened fire during a soccer tournament in Dover, Delaware. And I could probably go on and on.

This is the United States, where in comparison to most other countries, we have plenty of food, plenty of clean water, shelter, a relatively peaceful government…yet we also have more violence than any other developed nation in the world. No where is safe. As history has shown us, high school is not safe, college is not safe, clubs/bars are not safe, and now we can add movie theaters and places of worship to that list. According to the Brady Campaign to Prevent Gun Violence, which has kept an ongoing tally of mass shootings since 2005, the Unites States averages around 20 mass shootings a year and  multiple-victim shootings occurs about every 5.9 days!!! About 87 people die from bullet wounds every day. So far, there have been about 175 noted casualties in Afghanistan this year…so more people die on American soil than there are American soldiers killed in action.

With statistics such as these, you would think that people would cry out for gun restrictions, but the opposite is true according to a Gallup Poll on Guns. People feel that gun laws should be less strict, yet this same poll showed that people felt less safe if officials were allowed to carry guns in the courthouse, schools, and other public places. The only place where people felt more safe, were if pilots were allowed to carry guns. Why am I not surprised…the American public is nothing but a mass of contradictions.

But gun lovers shouldn’t have much to fear. The right to own a firearm is supposedly protected by the Constitution…at least that is what the NRA and their supporters have brainwashed people into believing. As I’ve stated earlier…still on the fence about this subject. Yes, I think there should be stricter gun laws…but do away with guns completely, I’m not exactly for that either. And generally, guns don’t go off and kill people by themselves. Eliminating guns or having stricter gun laws really won’t matter if the person holding the gun is “crazy” and is intent on killing people. And if you shoot 1 person…you are usually regarded as a murderer. If you shoot multiple people at one time…you are usually regarded as a mentally unstable person and have a better chance of pleading insanity. Go figure…

I don’t know what the solution is. I don’t even really know if guns are the main problem. I still think the main problem is people and the emotional responses of hate and anger. All I know is I am sick and tired of hearing about a shooting every week. Ending my rant now.

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Your last breath… (In memory of H’Katherine and John)

Waves and tides are like the heartbeat of the ocean,

So the rivers, lakes and streams must be its bloodline.

How ironic is it, that you took your last breath among the waves.

They say we are made of dirt and so to dirt we shall return,

Yet are we not about 75% water and is it not water that must sustain us.

So if we are made of water, thus it is only right that to water we shall return

As you two did…

Death does not take only the dying.

Sometimes it takes the living, those very happy, those on the brink of their dreams, and yes, even those very young.

In life there are seasons

And everything does happen for a reason,

But it is only the living and the loved ones left behind

That can’t comprehend the “why.”

You two were loved beyond any words that could ever be expressed.

The church was standing room only.

Family and friends came from all over the state.

People sung songs, girls were bows in their hair in your remembrance, and memories were shared.

Your lives were short but your impact on others was strong.

You took your last breath among the waves

And you were buried below tear soaked flowers.

Best friends and cousins…together at the end…forever.

The fear of drowning is one of the most paralyzing fears in the human mind.

But I sometimes wonder, if after all the struggle

There’s a sense of peace at the end.

And I wonder if, before you closed your eyes forever,

The view was as beautiful as this…

RIP H’Katherine and John.

“All rivers, even the most dazzling, even those that catch the sun in their course…all rivers go down to the ocean and drown. And life awaits us, as the sea awaits the river.” – Simone Schwarz-Bart


For more information on the tragedy,visit:

There’s One Man That I Will Always Love…and Who Will Never Break My Heart

In the midst of ups and downs and male woes that I could write a 10 book series about…there is one man who still stands out among the rest. And after 27 years…he is still the best. My father is one of the strongest men out there. He left his family at the age of 19 years old, knowing that he may never see them again, to join a cause that he believed in…and that was to fight for his country. During that journey he met and fell in love with my mother, who was of a different tribe and spoke a different language…and won her over with his shy smile. And almost 29 years later…he is loving her still. He fathered 5 children…while working numerous jobs, learning English, and getting his degree.

My father is not the richest man…he is not the smartest man…he is not the strongest man…but he has taught me more about life, then the richest, smartest, or strongest man ever could.

He has taught me that you can start a new life with not a penny to your name. My father came to the United States with absolutely NO money and NO connections. He started working right away and made $5 a DAY!! He now owns his own home, car, put himself through community college, maintains a steady job, and still managed to put 3 children through higher education. If my father has achieved this much from so little…I know that money is not an obstacle unless you make it one.

He has taught me that knowledge is power and it’s the type of power that no one can take away from you. If you don’t have the knowledge, then you do what you need to do, to achieve that knowledge. My father may not have an architect’s degree, but he helped build his own home. He may not have a mechanic’s license, but my father knows how to fix everything from an oil filter change to spare parts. My father may not be an agricultural specialist, but his little garden grows everything that can be found at the grocery store. He may not have a linguistic degree, but he speaks 6 languages: Rade, Jarai, Vietnamese, French, English and Thai. And I could go on and on. I wonder how many people with PhD’s could compete with a man who holds knowledge as vast as my father’s.

He has taught me that strength is not found in height, muscle, or weight….it is found in the heart. I believe that the heart is the strongest muscle in the human body. It is the only thing that can break over and over again…and not only endures, but grows stronger afterward.  He has seen his country fall, his comrades die, and lost his family and friends at a young age. But he has grown to love another country, made new friends, and been the father that he never had. I hope I inherited half the heart that my father has.

So HAPPY FATHER’S DAY to my Ama (father) and all the other father’s just like him!!


Memorial Day…The Real Meaning

Memorial day is more than the beginning of the “summer season” or another excuse for a 3 day weekend. It is more than just beach time, or “bike week”, or a cook out. It is about remembering the men and women who gave their life in the United States Armed Services. And there are plenty of ways to honor them. Thanks to the internet, you can easily search “memorial day” and your city, state and find plenty to do. Please take the time to thank the men and women who have served, are serving, and will serve.

And because pictures are worth more than a thousand words…

The story of America’s quest for freedom is inscribed on her history in the blood of her patriots. -Randy Vader

The legacy of heroes is the memory of a great name and the inheritance of a great example. – Benjamin Disraeli

Let every nation know, whether it wishes us well or ill, that we shall pay any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe to assure the survival and the success of liberty. -John F. Kennedy

And they who for their country die shall fill an honored grave, for glory lights the soldier’s tomb, and beauty weeps the brave.  ~Joseph Drake

Although no sculptured marble should rise to their memory, nor engraved stone bear record of their deeds, yet will their remembrance be as lasting as the land they honored.  ~Daniel Webster

Four things support the world: the learning of the wise, the justice of the great, the prayers of the good, and the valor of the brave
– Muhammad

We come, not to mourn our dead soldiers, but to praise them. – Francis A. Walker

A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself. – Joseph Campbell

And I’m proud to be an American, where at least I know I’m free, and I won’t forget the men who died, who gave that right to me and I’ll proudly stand next to him to defend her still today, ‘cuz there ain’t no doubt I love this land, god bless the USA. -Lee Greenwood


Update: Amendment One Passed by Voters in NC

Sooo, the results are in and 40% of the citizens of North Carolina are upset, frustrated, sad and/or [insert the obligatory angry adjective here] and the other 60% are [insert appropriate adjective here]. This state is the 30th state to institute a ban on gay marriage and other types of domestic partnerships will likely no longer be recognized. I just really don’t understand how discriminatory laws like this can still occur in 2012…

I don’t understand  because there is this concept called a “fundamental right”…where something is so fundamental to our idea of humanity that it transcends the legal system.  These fundamental rights are considered so important, that any law restricting it must pass strict scrutiny (where the state must show a compelling governmental interest that is narrowly tailored to meet that interest).

The United States Supreme Court has legally recognized 3 main fundamental rights, which include:

1) the right to travel

2) the right to vote, and

3) the right to privacy, which includes:

a. the right to procreation,

b. the right to an abortion during the first trimester,

c. the right to private education,

d. the right to contraception,

e. the right of family relations, and last but not least,

f. the right to marry

But I guess the right to marry is not a fundamental right… if you are a homosexual. I guess because homosexual love is wrong and “threatens” the sanctity of heterosexual love. Because you know, the marriage between a man and a woman is the “right” kind of love, and it is everlasting and never abusive and never ends in divorce. And homosexuals are the root of all evil and the cause of moral turpitude and war, famine, and natural disasters. (And in case you didn’t know…you were supposed to read this paragraph in your sarcastic voice).

Or what if you are someone like myself…who is not a homosexual…but who will most likely not have a “traditional” marriage, which from the illustration above proves that, what is considered a “traditional marriage” changes with time. What if I really wanted to be a co-parent and adopt…because I honestly don’t see myself getting married to a man within the next 3 years and I want to be a parent soon. I am seriously having “iwannabeamommy” syndrome going on right now. And she would be the perfect mother…I know it. She is soo good with kids and she is so “motherly”…she loves to take care of others, and cook, and clean, and do laundry, and take them to doctor appointments. And we would adopt a little girl, with honey brown skin and thick black hair. We would adopt her from Asia or the Middle East and save her from being a sex slave, or seen as the property of a man, or a life of poverty. The little girl would grow up to be smart, and beautiful, and strong, and independent because both of her mothers are …and we would remind her every day about her worth as a woman and most importantly that she is loved. And now I’m going to stop before I make myself cry…

And again, I am not a lesbian but I know that I would rather have a family with a woman who loves and accepts me for me. She makes me feel more beautiful than any man ever could because she is not telling me bullshit just to get in my pants (and NO we don’t get down like that). And she accepts the fact that I am ADD and OCD and slightly paranoid. She accepts and actually encourages my delusional love for Jeremy Lin (who I would marry and have all 10 of his children) and she doesn’t leave the toilet seat up when she uses the bathroom and she doesn’t fart in her sleep or try to molest me in bed and I know she isn’t going to wake up one morning and tell me I am fat and ugly. And most importantly she has been by my side longer than ANY man ever has. So we have decided that we are getting the hell out of this state and starting over elsewhere. And hopefully along the way we will both fall in love and marry amazing men…but if not, we still have each other. And if I feel this way about a woman I am not even romantically in love with, then I can’t even imagine what people are feeling, who are.


NC’s Amendment 1 a.k.a. Marriage Protection Amendment – What you NEED to know

North Carolina has received national attention because of Amendment 1. There has been soooo much coverage on this matter, that I thought it would be overkill to write a post on it…but since the latest poll data suggests that there are still more Amendment 1 supporters than there are opposers…I figured my 2 cents may actually make a difference. A poll done by Public Policy Polling, on May 1, shows that 55% of people polled still plan to vote in favor of the Amendment, while only 43% plan to vote against it. Another poll done by the Civitas Institute, conducted April 30 through May 2, supports the finding that there are more supporters of the Amendment. They asked register voters, “Do you support or oppose a constitutional amendment that says: “Marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this State?” The responses are as follows:


48% Total Support

44% Total Oppose

41% Strongly Support

7% Somewhat Support

6% Somewhat Oppose

38% Strongly Oppose

7% Don’t Know/ No Opinion (DO NOT READ)

1% Refused (DO NOT READ)


78% Total Support

15% Total Oppose

72% Strongly Support

7% Somewhat Support

3% Somewhat Oppose

12% Strongly Oppose

6% Don’t Know/ No Opinion (DO NOT READ)

I truly believe one reason why there are so many supporters is because North Carolina citizens do not understand what supporting this Amendment really entails. On election day, this is how the Amendment will read on your ballot: If this amendment passes then it will have the effect of amending Article 14 of the North Carolina Constitution, by adding Section 6. Marriage, which will read as follows: “Marriage between one man and one woman is the ONLY domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this State. This section does not prohibit a private party from entering into contracts with another private party; nor does this section prohibit courts from adjudicating the rights of private parties pursuant to such contracts.”

For those of you who didn’t catch it the first time…read it again. “Marriage” is the ONLY “domestic legal union” that shall be valid in the state of NC. So what does a “domestic legal union” really mean?? No one really knows because this is not a legal term and it has not yet been defined…or in other words, the term is vague and overbroad. Litigation over the meaning of this phrase could take YEARS to resolve because it has never been used in any prior NC statutory law or court holdings. In fact, this phrase has never been interpreted in any courts in any other states!! Because this phrase is so unclear, this amendment not only affects same-sex couples, this amendment could also affect any unmarried heterosexual couple as well.

For an amendment that is so unclear…it’s affects could be devastating to NC’s unmarried couples. It could have the effect of invalidating domestic partnership insurance benefits, making domestic violence even more harmful, harm the best interest of a child to unmarried parents, and limiting protections for unmarried couples. It may also have the effect of limiting economic growth to NC, which in turn could affect jobs. And I won’t even go into arguments of discrimination against a minority group or what this could do to the rise of hate crimes against homosexuals.

This amendment could invalidate domestic partnership insurance benefits. Four local governments, the Town of Tarrboro, Town of Chapel Hill, City of Durham, and County of Orange, offers insurance benefits to both same-sex and heterosexual domestic partners and the County of Durham, City of Greensboro and County of Mecklenburg offers insurance benefits to only same-sex couples. Due to the wording in this amendment, the domestic partners benefits could be invalidated and it could prevent future benefits from being given to domestic partners, homosexual or straight.

This amendment could have a huge impact on how the courts view domestic violence.

North Carolina Statute 50B-1, Domestic Violence, states:

(b) For purposes of this section, the term “personal relationship” means a relationship wherein the parties involved:
(1) Are current or former spouses;
(2) Are persons of opposite sex who live together or have lived together;
(3) Are related as parents and children, including others acting in loco parentis to a minor child, or as grandparents and grandchildren. For purposes of this subdivision, an aggrieved party may not obtain an order of protection against a child or grandchild under the age of 16;
(4) Have a child in common;
(5) Are current or former household members;
(6) Are persons of the opposite sex who are in a dating relationship or have been in a dating relationship. For purposes of this subdivision, a dating relationship is one wherein the parties are romantically involved over time and on a continuous basis during the course of the relationship. A casual acquaintance or ordinary fraternization between persons in a business or social context is not a dating relationship.

Because the statute affords protections to unmarried couples, you would hope that this will not change if Amendment 1 passes, but if Ohio (which passed a similar amendment) is any indication, then Amendment 1 could limit protections only to victims who had been married to their abusers. It took THREE years before the Ohio Supreme Court decided that their domestic violence protections did not violate their constitutional amendment and before this decision was made, there were about 27 dismissals and reversals of convictions ordered by the lower courts, because the state felt they could not extend domestic violence protections to unmarried victims.

This amendment could harm the best interest of a child conceived by unmarried parents. The Catholic Voice of NC (supporters of Amendment 1), states that the government should be involved in marriage to protect children. In fact, the opposite could happen. If this amendment passes, then a judge may view a same-sex or unmarried couple as having a negative impact on a child and because of this, limit custody, visitation rights and prevent adoptions. And as stated earlier…if unmarried couples lose insurance through their job because of their unmarried status, then this will also mean more children will lose their health insurance benefits.

This amendment limits protections for unmarried couples. Currently, unmarried couples can provide protections for their partner, such as with a power of attorney and a living will. But if Amendment 1 gets passed, then courts could decide that these documents recognize a “domestic legal union” between unmarried couples, which would be considered unconstitutional.  This in turn, can invalidate wills, trusts, hospital visitation, and medical decision-making between unmarried couples, as well as same-sex ones.

This amendment could limit economic growth in NC. President Obama, former President Clinton, and Senator Kay Hagan have all urged North Carolinians to vote AGAINST this amendment because it could turn away potential businesses and prevent NC from keeping good business and entrepreneurs in this state. On September 12, 2011, more than 75 CEOs signed a letter asking state officials to not approve this amendment. If this amendment passes, there will be at least 75 unhappy CEOs of companies, who are operating in the state of NC. If they decide to leave NC, the job loss will be devastating.

And I changed my mind…I am going to take up some more of your time and argue that Amendment 1 will also further discriminate against a minority group and justify hate crimes. Because the truth is, some people are going to hate gays the same way they hate blacks or foreigners, etc. but the last thing you want to do is give them a law that is going to support their prejudicial ways. Case in point: NC pastor Sean Harris, who advocates using violence to prevent children from becoming gay…seriously?!

I’m sure this post may not make any difference to some people. But if it informed one person, then it was worth spending 2 hours writing on a Saturday night (#nerdforlife). Don’t forget to vote Tuesday, May 8th!!!!

Please visit these sites for more information (in the order they appear in this post):

Public Policy Polling.

Civitas Institute.

Ballot Pedia. NC Carolina Same-Sex Marriage (May 2012).,_Amendment_1_(May_2012)

The News & Record, Marriage amendment redundant and vague (April 30, 2012).

Potential Legal Impact of the Proposed Domestic Legal Union Amendment to the North Carolina Constitution (Nov. 8, 2011).

Protect all NC families, the harmful truth about Amendment 1.

The Catholic Voice of NC.

Indy Weekly, Bill Clinton makes two presidents against Amendment 1 (May 5, 2012).

Wikipedia, Recognition of same-sex unions in North Carolina.

The Huffington Post, North Carolina Pastor Sean Harris: Parents should “punch” their gay acting children , (May 2, 2012).

Update: George Zimmerman Charged with Second Degree Murder!!

In a live news conference held at 6pm today, special prosecutor Angela Corey, has just confirmed that George Zimmerman has been charged with second degree murder and is in custody now (YAY!!). Yesterday, Zimmerman’s former attorneys, Craig Sonner and Hal Uhrig withdrew from the case because they have not been able to reach Zimmerman. Currently, Zimmerman is being represented by new counsel, Mark O’Mara. Zimmerman voluntarily surrendered himself and is being held at an undisclosed location.

Even though Corey claims that neither public pressure nor the nationwide petition, influenced their decision, I feel that the public did help influence them to take another look at this case. If it wasn’t for the public outrage over the lack of investigation being done by the police department, this could have been another case swept under the radar, like so many others.

Trayvon Martin’s mother, Sybrina Fulton, told reporters, “First of all, I want to say: Thank God. We simply wanted an arrest. We wanted nothing more and nothing less, and we got it. And I say thank you. Thank you, Lord. Thank you, Jesus.” People who have been following this story and praying for justice are also very pleased with Corey’s announcement. This case still has a long way to go before we see a conviction, but at least now this case can be brought before a jury, facts can be reviewed, and there is at least a chance for justice.

In Florida, second degree murder carries a maximum sentence of life in prison. If convicted, there will not be an opportunity for parole. Zimmerman is being held without bail, but his attorneys can request a bond; at which time, a bond hearing will be set.

Here is the official charging document:

Hunger Games Movie Reveals Prejudice

The girl pictured above is Rue, played by the black actress, Amandla Sternburg. You would think the death of her character would spark tears or at least sadness. For some people it did, but for others it sparked anger and racism.

I have never read the book nor have I seen the movie. But I wanted to do a post because it’s no secret that fans are disappointed that some of the characters were played by black actors. I know in movies, some people get upset when a character is supposed to be a certain race but then the directors cast another race or ethnicity to play that part. I mean people got upset that Jennifer Lopez (who is Puerto Rican) played Selena (who was Mexican), regardless of the fact that both were Hispanic. And yes, I was one of those people upset that The Last Airbender was played by a white actor. But I didn’t think that it effected people so much to the point that they wouldn’t want to see a movie or feel less compassion for the death of a character…solely based on the color of their skin. Now I don’t have Twitter so I never saw any of the racial remarks made by upset fans, until I read other blogs. I am shocked at what people are tweeting. I thought people would want to see more diversity in movies, books, music, and entertainment in general. If you haven’t seen these posts, I have pasted some below. I’m sure there were more, but most have been taken down and/or their accounts have been deleted because of the criticism they received on their tweets.

Am I the only one who was actually surprised over these tweets? I guess I don’t want to believe that even in 2012, people can be so upset over the color of an actor’s skin, that they blatantly put their prejudicial views on blast. I have the most precious little niece who is half black and I am a minority female myself, who is now wondering if people would regard our deaths, as less cry worthy, simply because we are not white.

Sources of Tweets: